Well, I must say you've got the full cross section of what to do (or not do). The one thing that is rarely mentioned is that it doesn't make much difference what program, book or person's advice is used if you don't learn how to teach a pup what it's instincts are designed for.
One misconception I see crop up in threads like this is the idea that an e-collar is supposed to make a dog behave and perform. Nothing could be farther than the truth in that respect. Teaching is the key to retriever training. The e-collar can be lumped right in with a heeling stick, pinch or choker collar and a leash.
There is nothing wrong with treats early on, but real rewards are more effective. In addition, I'm fairly positive that once taught properly a dog needs to understand the reinforcement of consequences. Good habits established by teaching early on become a way of life. The key to this is to make sure the right way is all they know.
Books, DVDs, programs only show what is possible and may provide a sequence of things to work on. Retriever training is a process that falls apart if the focus is not on teaching. In addition, it is important to have good, consistent advice early on. Strive to enlist the aid of a TEACHING mentor.
My feeling about books is that old ones have old ideas. It's not that they don't work to some degree. It doesn't necessarily indicate old won't work, it's just that there are newer programs with ideas and techniques that are more effective.......if done correctly.
Fourteen years ago I read Milner's material and it wasn't for me. I started my first dog on Dobb's and soon moved on to using quite a bit of Graham and Lardy which are Rex Carr based programs. I do use an e-collar.
The mere mention of e-collar brings on controversy. There are few discussions in dog training that can top the emotional waves of the e-collar. My response to this is it is simply a tool and like any tool it must be used correctly. It does not teach.
Then again this is a thread where discussions of the e-collar will sidetrack the OP's intent.
There are several very useful, free articles written by Butch Goodwin. One of the newest approaches (recently presented by Bill Hillman) is receiving great responses. The driving principle is reward based on "the retrieve is the reward".
However, not much of what is used in developing a retriever will work very well if the trainer can't teach.
Initially, it is important to instill in a pup that you are the center of their universe. You don't get this early on by spending a great deal time making him do anything. Get a pup into thinking everything is fun and you are the source.
Trainers get in trouble when they become too preoccupied with trying to make a pup do what they want when in fact training should be based on doing what the pup needs "in the moment".
Here's a link which might provide some perspectives. It includes the daily journal entries for several months of a pup's early training.
http://kwicklabs.com/InTheMoment.htm
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