I was not as fortunate as many of you to grow up in a hunting family. My father was a "city kid" and never hunted or fished in his life. My grandfather on my mothers side was an avid outdoorsman, but my mother would not let him take me hunting until I was 12 years old.. I remember practicing with him for the big day I would turn 12. He died when I was 10.
I started hunting and offshore fishing (my other passion) when I was in my late 20's (married and had 3 kids by then).. I learned by joining DU, being very quiet and RESPECTFUL of all the people that clearly new more than me! I offered to carry decoys, clean birds, etc etc if I could just tag along with them. Over the years I built some great friendships and LEARNED a lot.
What I miss is the simplicity of duck hunting when I first started (now 25 years ago). I only had a dozen or so decoys, a half trained golden retriever (who was the BEST companion and OK retriever), my grandfathers old Savage Arms 12 guage shotgun, and some leg waders (not full waders) that my father in law "loaned" me (I think i still have them). I would coordinate with a hunting friend, get up early, get to a simple spot (walk in only or off the beach for sea ducks), talk, drink coffee and banana bread or muffins my wife had made for me.. We would shoot our share of ducks, but sometimes none at all... and be back home by 11 am to spend the rest of the day with my young family.
Somewhere in my mid 30's, I had some more money and got duck boats, bunch of decoys, guns etc etc. Then hunting became a big production... boat launching, big decoy spreads, lots of ducks shot, etc etc. I would be gone all day and sometimes well into the evening. Started to become more like "work" than hunting...
Now, I am back to a simpler hunting style. I have 2 boys (20 and 17) and a daughter 19. My daughter, unfortuneatly has no interest in hunting or fishing (although she has done both just to prove she did not like it... but she CAN clean a duck and a fish!). Both my boys are great shots and very good hunters. My oldest has the real passion and is one of the best offshore fishing mates in the Cape Cod area. My youngest, more like me, enjoys the social aspects of hunting and fishing and spending time with me and all my hunting/fishing friends. My hunting and fishing friends are all great guys and as most of us outdoorsmen are "characters". The one thing that I notice in all my hunting and fishing friends is that they are REAL MEN. They stand up for what they believe, take care of their families, have good morals, honor their chosen religion, etc etc. They have all been GREAT role models for my sons!
SO, I have evolved a bit.. and I am getting back to my quiet, simple style of hunting and spending great times with my family and friends. Offshore fishing is taking up a bunch of my time now, but has very similar aspects to hunting. I can now honestly say, it does not matter to me how many ducks I kill or fish I catch.. it is more about the "life conversations", laughs, comaraderie and experiencing God's gift of Nature that happen while out hunting and fishing...
Jim O'Brien